Thursday, 17 September 2015

Significance of Ganesha, Meaning of his creation

In her childhood,my sister once asked my mother why we worship such a strange god Ganesha. She was asking about elephant headed, pot-bellied, broken-tusked god who travels on a mouse. It sounds bit funny. But as strange it looks, this little peculiarity of Lord Ganesha has a deep spiritual meaning. It has a great significance when we connect this strangeness to our life. The symbolic representation of Ganesha has an easy to understand connotation. His image represents how one should see life and world around. With each of his body part, he teaches us how to live life blissfully. I read about it recently and here I am sharing it with you all.
  • Lord Ganesha's elephant head symbolizes the immense wisdom of a person of Perfection. Wisdom is something that comes out of thinking big, without being influenced. This cognition can happen only when one has willingness to listen to others. 
  • Lord Ganesha's large ears signify that we should be good listener. It also symbolizes that even the wisest people are always open to hear fresh ideas and opinions. In other words, the wise are those who always keep an open mind. 
  • Emerging from the Lord's head is the elephant trunk. This trunk visually depicts a well-developed intellect that arises out of wisdom, the elephant head. It stands for being adaptive and being efficient. As elephant uses this trunk for doing various things, similarly Lord Ganesha's trunk tells us to use our mind wisely and be well organized.                                           
  • Small eyes of Lord Ganesha instructs us to be focused in what we are doing. Avoid anything which is coming under your path to joy.
One of the key attributes of people who are self-realized is that they rise above their likes/dislikes and the pairs of opposites ( joys/sorrows, victory/losing) that world presents before them. This supremacy over the pairs of opposites (two tusks) in a person is indicated beautifully by Lord Ganesha's broken tusk.
  •  The tusk tells us to take life as a sportsperson. Giving their best at every juncture, yet understanding that, in ultimate analysis, it is only a game. And when we have risen above the play of opposites then only we can stomach the challenges that life throws at us. This idea is depicted by Lord Ganesha's large stomach.                                                                                      
  • Lord Ganesha's large stomach instructs us to peacefully digest good and bad things of life. We should have mental strength to brush aside the greatest setbacks while keeping our heads in the midst of immensely joyous experience.
The Lord's posture with one foot on the ground and the other folded up conveys to us that while we must operate in the world, there must also be a constant alignment with our new thoughts and what we have experienced in the past. We should think carefully in adapting new things with comparing them what is suitable for us. You must have noticed Prashad near the foot of Lord Ganesha. It actually symbolizes material wealth and power. Through this, the Lord subtly indicates that the world rewards those who lives a life of truth. This wealth and power is not the greatest concern of life but inner peace is what we should look for.
  • In his four hands, Lord Ganesha holds an axe, a rope, a modak and a lotus. The axe represents the annihilation of desire with the axe of positivity. The rope is spiritual knowledge which helps us to remove ourselves from this material world, that we are entrenched in. The modak symbolizes the happiness and joy a seeker derives from the peace of mind. And the lotus stands for that state of self-realization that every human being aspires for, consciously or unconsciously. The lotus sustains itself in dirty ponds but yet is above it all. Similarly, we should live in the world, enjoy life and yet be above it all by believing in Self.                             
  • And every kid's favorite The mouse as the Lord's mode of transport magnifies the challenge that a person faces when controlling his desires. The mouse depicts that we should keep our desires under control and don’t allow it to take you to a ride. Rather you keep your wishes and thoughts under check. His colorful cloths says about being vivid and full of energy.     
Amazingly this depicts that his creation is to tell humanity how to live happily in this world. Although above explanation has touch of spirituality but understanding its essence is not difficult. So this Ganesh Utsav, let’s try to be a Ganesha. Live life brightly being a Ganesha !!

Monday, 14 September 2015

On Vibhu's Birthday

Kid's first birthday is always special. So last Wednesday out of ordinary for me as it's Vibhu's first birthday today. The celebration started from a day before only. Vibhu's favorite person, his didi "Dhwani" celebrated his birthday at 12 O'clock. Although her half yearly exams are starting from today but she is overjoyed with the thoughts of birthday gala. I was surprised to see her message in my phone. She wanted us ( me and my dear husband) to take Vibhu to her place at 12 AM sharp. I was already noticing some activity at her room which is just above my kitchen window. When I reached there with Vibhu, I was touched with the gesture of whole Dhwani's family. They had decorated the room, cake was placed and birthdays songs were playing in order. Vibhu always feel happy to see them so he started dancing with the music. My bad I was in a messy dress whereas every one from Dhwani's family her mother, father, cousin all were dressed well. Vibhu loves balloons so he got busy playing with his didi and balloons. For a mother best is to see her tots playing, laughing and enjoying fullest. I was walking on air to see things there. Cake cutting happened and every one got snaps clicked with Vibhu. They showed immense love for Vibhu, specially Dhwani. I thanked them with full heart.

On 9th we had a small party near to my place. Few friends and office mates came to bless Vibhu and they made celebration go rock. Vibhu was dressed in golden-maroon shervani. His father got this specially for him, hunting markets for whole 3 days. Vibhu was enjoying and so we were also enjoying seeing him in best spirit. Overall it was one of the memorable days of my life. My son has achieved first milestone of his life.


I wish my son lots of lots of smile in coming years. We are always there with you Vibhu.

Happy Birthday Vibhu baby :)

Today's kids are lucky have Parents like us

Don't you think that our kids are lucky to have parents like us? I do think and I am feeling it for long time. Few days back my sweet sister sent a toy piano for my son. Its really an amazing toy having a key board, different style buttons for animal sounds and it flashes light depending upon music. Although its can't catch interest of my son towards itself. Two people of my family really enjoyed it,my mother in-law and my husband. I heard my mother in- law saying that she couldn't afford such type of expensive toy for my husband in his childhood. At the same time, I noticed my loving husband playing with keyboard. My mother in-law stays with us so we talk a lot on different topics. One from those list of subject is her early married life and start of her motherhood. She got married in a typical conservative Brahmin family where husband-wife talking in open was a crime. They were allowed to see each other during night only with some conditions applied also. All household core should have been done and this "much needed" time was limited to first ray of sun. She struggled all the way to her first child after 6 years of marriage. And even after having a baby not much changed. My father in-law once snuggled his son in front of everyone and got scolded by his father for doing so. A father was not allowed to play with his son publicly. Sounding insane?? Of curse yes.. That was called a gesture of a cultured Brahmin family and I don't understand how?? My mother in-law also shared how difficult was the time when she was raising her first two kids. All day she used to do household cores cooking, cleaning, cloths of entire family and what not to count. At times she couldn't attend her crying baby because of work pressure created by her tv soap style saasu ma and sister in-law. After my husband came into her life ( who is second child), she used to give the little one to her neighbors while she was cooking in old kerosene stoves( gas stove was far from reach ). And on top of this she used to make the elder one sitting next to her in kitchen while cooking. I was mouth opened to hear that she even used to make kids sleep in kitchen while cooking. With one hand tapping baby and with other using stove. Dangerous indeed! And not boasting upon what luxuries we parents are providing these days, that era was really bad for kids. Many siblings, less resources, limited attention and poor care. Good toys and expensive cloths were belonging of above middle class parents. Else starting from first child, every younger one used to wear same cloths. They used to play with same old toys and used to use old books, schools uniform and other things of just elder sibling.I am not sure why the time 20-30 years before was not in favor of children. Let me put what i think about the matter. May be because of many siblings (my dadi ji had 7 sisters and my father has 4 siblings), parents couldn't afford every demanded luxury. Not every father was highly qualified and both father-mother working was rarely seen. Joint family culture also played role in limited care of babies. Joint family needs same thing for every kid of similar age. And not to forget, gender discrimination!! Many parents didn't bring up a girl kid and boy kid equally. So boy the " vansh" of the family used to get royal treatment and for girls learning household cores was enough. If girls were allowed to study, they couldn't do expensive courses. During those days Fatherhood was for earning living and motherhood was dedicated to rest everything. In fact raising kids used to be the work of mothers only.  Frankly, many of the parents 20 years before hardly thought much for their kids. But Exception is possible any where so those who were lucky not to feel and see these things, I apologize.I am talking about families like my mother in-law's. Families deeply delved in typical traditional rules.
We as today's parents try to give everything what our kids can imagine to have. Different cloths, toys, jazzy gazettes, good schooling and good living, at least every parent try to provide these things to their tots. We parents are working hard, both the partners, trying in fulfilling every dream of our kids.My intention is not to criticize parenting of 20 years before. My aim is to make every parent of these days realize that we are doing best for our tots. We run behind them to put breakfast bites in mouth directly with every bite perfectly sized. We struggle for getting admission in good school. We do best to get homework and assignments done. We search markets for getting dresses when school want them to come dressed as gandhi ji. We enroll our kids in expensive summer camps and extra curricula activity classes. We do get tensed when kids are going through tests/ exams. We don't do gender discrimination now, at least this is my belief. No educated parent raise their boy and girl differently. We also plan our families. Two kids enough!! We do share things in siblings to some extent. But quality matters. We are working towards making their future, to nurture them as good citizen. Gone is the time when nappy changing belonged to mother only. Now fathers do better than mothers.We do more care and that ways more love to kids now. We are evolved parents. Parenting is now considered as art. You master it with every day practice. So feel good, feel best actually. Our kids are lucky to have us with them.