Thursday, 27 July 2017

It is your stronger will that makes it happen!



A man was attending to the speech of a saint. In his speech the saint was inspiring people to stay away from superstitions and misbeliefs. The saint told that there is only one ruler of this world and he stays inside all of us, so we need to search the surviving potential inside our own selves only. At this the man raised him a doubt.
The man told him about his friend who had been trying to get a government job since ling. He added that after a few unsuccessful attempts his friend consulted an astrologer who told him to offer a distinct payer and distribute sweets outside a temple every Thursday to his selection in a government job. His friend did the same in complete faith and he got that job. If the gods are inside us and they don’t need anything from us, why such tricks work?
The saint smiled at him and explained, “Your friend had certainly done all the tricks in complete faith. His great faith in the tricks made his will power stronger than before. Every time he made efforts like offering puja and distributing sweets, he could make his wish to get that job even stronger. He put his heart and soul to this desire and his stronger will power helped him achieve his aim.”
The saint added, “To believe is to half way done. He believed and he succeeded.”
The man got to know the secret of life this way. What we think and what we believe in is what we actually get.
So, always expect the best from life and life would give you its best. Always believe that the best will happen and it will happened. Optimism costs nothing but pays a lot. Make your will power strong enough to believe that I will happen and trust me it will happen. Positive thinking may not be the only thing required to make it happen, it is definitely essential to make it happen.

Wednesday, 26 July 2017

Why I meet and greet kids of my son's daycare Every Day

The first month after my son joined his daycare was really hard won. For few initial days, I left him crying in the arms of his daycare teacher. I used to be very sentimental and used to curse my decision of getting my son enrolled in the daycare. As per the daycare teacher, it is very obvious and normal that the child gets scared parting from her mother and having strangers all around. She used to tell me to relax my thought horses and give some time to my boy. Although, my situation was the most favorable one can ever get. The daycare is in my office only and I had the freedom to go and hug my son anytime. Howbeit, for a mother of home pampered kid, it was toilsome.



Days were going in hope of my 1 and half-year-old getting jelled there. What a tough time it was! One day when I was standing in front of the daycare door carrying my boy, and the daycare teacher lovingly called him  “Come, my child”, I saw my clingy tot willingly rushing to someone else’s arms. I was emotional and in tears. That was the day when he waved me a good bye all smiling and looking pleased. Aah!! I was so composed and poised. Since then, my son is gleefully enjoying his daycare. He is learning new things and understanding the world more and more. All thanks to daycare staff, they love my boy so much.

Every other day when I drop my son to his daycare, I find new moms and new kids joining the gang of cute kids who stay there till evening. I observe mothers in the same situation where I was 2 years back, nervous and tender hearted. They stick around the daycare’s gate to see if their kids stop crying after their disappearance. Some of them ask me to go inside and check their buds. I do this whole heartedly and religiously. I know what these mothers are going through and someone like me whose kid is settled since long can give them the much-needed solace.

Then I look at those innocent babies and toddlers who struggle to stay departed from their mothers. If it’s the first day of the daycare, most of the time, they want to stay outside. They hate how everything is so unknown and strange inside. They like to be friend with other kids playing, singing rhymes and reading books. However, they don’t like the grown-up strangers, the daycare staff. I try my bit to make every new kid relax and familiar with ambiance. I take my boy along and try to talk to the new baby. Infants and pre-toddlers don’t respond much. But toddlers do. I give them chocolates, standing by Cadbury’s ad “Har rishtey ki shuruwat meethe se honi chahiye..” Kids like chocolates!  I help my boy to make affinity with new kids. I myself try to be an Anuty-friend with such kids. So that when they see me, they could feel better.  Every day I make sure to say “Hi” and “Good Morning” to new kids of daycare. I manage some time to quickly chat with their mothers in front of them. So that, they could know I am someone they can trust.

And then, my efforts get fruitful. They start giving me smiles back. They start responding my ‘Hi’s and Good Mornings. When during the day, I go and meet my son in the daycare; other kids also come and meet me. Some of them want to sit in my lap, some wish to get carried and some even demand my cell phone. But I manage to give attention to many of them, including my son, whom I give a shared a heed. And this feels so good when you see another baby getting settled in the daycare. I get close to that feeling which I had, when for the first time my boy willingly went in the arms of daycare teacher.


I love kids. And I like to see them smiling, giggling and chuckling all the time. This is how I put in efforts Every Day to make a sad kid smile. I can’t go far and work with any NGO to help unprivileged kids Every Day.  I have to work in my office complete 8 hours. However, I am giving my contribution this way with trying to make a new joiner kid (of daycare) happy Every Day. I see the results and it’s so rewarding, believe me. 

Tuesday, 25 July 2017

SHE-box Portal : An initiative of Empowering Women

"Woman must not accept; she must challenge. She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her; she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression. " 



The Women and Child Development ministry today launched an online platform to enable women employees of the central government to file complaints related to sexual harassment at the workplace. Union minister Maneka Gandhi said that first this platform will cater the needs of central government’s women employees and based on its impact and progress, it will be further made widen to cover private sector employees as well.

What is SHE-box?

'SHe-box' (sexual harassment electronic box) is an online complaint management system hosted on the website of the Women and Child Development Ministry. Once a complaint is submitted to the 'SHe-Box', it will be directly sent to the internal complaints committee (ICC) of the ministry/department/PSU/autonomous body etc concerned, to take action on the matter. The portal is also supposed to speed up the process of inquiry and provide a speedier remedy to the women employees.

The expectations from SHE-Box
  • This portal is assumed to ensure the proper implementation of Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition, and Redressal) Act, 2013.
  • It will also provide a list of follow-up details so that the employee can see the exact status of the complaint.
  • As per the department’s report, the idea of this portal is to remedy the cases before they reach the level where legal action may be warranted.
  • It is also suggested to have a section in the portal so that complainants can "vent" their grievances in detail.
  • This portal is expected to prove a boon for women employees who work in such organization where there is no committee made for taking action on their complaints.
  • This will also make women employees feel more vocal and bold in terms of reporting sexual harassment cases happening around them.
  • The portal will also make women aware about the nature of harassment and definition of what constitutes a case of sexual harassment.
  • Union minister Maneka Gandhi instructed officials to make the portal as "interactive" as possible.
How to file a complaint through SHe-Box?
  • One should have a valid email id and mobile number for filing a complaint. Then, open SHe-Box portal.
  • On the first page of portal comes “Register Your Complaint “option. Clicking on that opens a new page for registering the complaint.
  • Few things are required there. For example; a mobile number, Aadhar number, Ministry/department where one works and against whom one wants to put up the complaint.
  • One can name more than one person a single complaint as the accused box accepts comma separated names.
  • As of now only government's women employees can fill a case there. 
My take

Sexual harassment is widespread. Up to half of working women report experiencing sexual harassment at some point in their careers. Surprisingly, it's widespread occurrence and serious consequences, formal reporting of workplace harassment is very rare. There are myriad of reasons why women employees don’t come forward (much) and report such crime at work places. Victim blaming, further harassment and career fear are on top of the list. Another sorry factor is women often do not know what type of acts qualify as sexual harassment and fail to report them. The Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Act, 2013 that came into effect recently depicts the rules for dealing with cases of sexual harassment at the workplace. Sadly many of the working women don’t know what this law is and how this can help them.

The Union government has 30.87 lakh employees and on an average, women constitute 12 % of the total force. With this move, The Women and Child Development ministry is trying to give an easy access to reporting system to government women employees, without any need to take help from mediators. I am taking this as a silver lining in the dark clouds of harassment at offices. I am also hoping that this initiative will be proved beneficent for central government’s women employees and will be then get implemented for the private sector as well. I so welcome this move. Empowering women, empowers the nation!!



Monday, 24 July 2017

It was “No” One’s Mistake

Life is full of love, likes and expectations as nicely as it is full of clashes, conflicts and mistakes. We fall into all these, even if we know it is an illusion and these are meant to let go. Especially in relationships, we ride on a plane of uncontrollable emotions which take us from extreme of joy to extreme of sorrow. Those who make up easily and intentionally, keep on the ride. While those who fail to manage, stay back until they start another ride of the same kind. But what if we meet the companions of an old ride after we have moved on to new paths.


Sometimes two close friends have serious clashes and call an end to their intimacy, understanding and affection. I often see people giving stranger looks to each other after they meet each other despite of the fact that they have shared unforgettable pleasure and pains together just sometime back their lives. Does this mean they have moved on? No. This means they still remember all that which is why they are not able to give each other a perfectly stranger’s treatment.

If you break up, do it carefully. It is important to forgive, if certainly not possible to completely forget, before you move on. And the best way to forgive each other is to believe that ‘it was no one’s mistake’.

There is enough possibility that both of you are right at your own points. This is just that you both have different points of view, you should not call the other person wrong.
Even strangers have a defined relation which is of being stranger to each other. So why should we not have a pure heart towards our companions with whom we have broken-up some time back. You may be right at your point and the other person’s view might be absolutely ignorable, but proving the other person’s fault would certainly not heal any of you. On the other hand, if you let go and make up again there is nothing more cheery for both of you.  

So, next time your ego asks you how to let go, how to forgive or how to make up again, tell her that it was probably no one’s mistake.